I was feeling a bit low earlier today – just a bit tired probably. But this morning I’ve been devising an exercise for the workshops I’m running in Skyros and two hours later, I’m feeling very loved, calm and content.
Just try answering some of these questions:- Who do you most love and why?
- Who loves you the most and why?
- Who has had the most positive impact on your life and how has that made your life different?
- Who makes you laugh the most and why?
- Who makes you smile on a daily basis and why?
- What is the most positive thing that someone has ever said about you and how did it make you feel?
(This exercise is inspired by the research of Professor Phillip Shaver, a social and personality psychologist who used a technique called ‘priming’ to subliminally expose people to words associated with emotional security. He discovered that by doing this he could make us feel more emotionally secure, which in turn would make us more loving and compassionate to others. Read more about it in Sharon Bagley’s brilliant boook The Plastic Mind)
Have a lovely weekend,
Suzy x
P.S The Big Leap Live starts October 4th. If you want to train your brain for contentment, do join us. If you book before Monday, you get one free one to one telephone coaching session with me.
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Sorry Suzy ..this made me even more ‘down’ as there is no -one in my life to fulfill these questions. It just made it more clear how alone I am….. good luck with the Big Leap Live x
Connection is a really vital need in all of us. I have lots of fantastic friends (but yes, most of very busy with their lives), my parents died a long time ago, and I’ve just left a 16 year marriage. So I empathise with the ‘no one’.
There is a theory is that we are alone because we choose to disconnect because on some level it protects us from getting hurt/rejected.
I’ve just written an article on courage but I was feeling low this morning because I realised I wasn’t being very brave in my life.
But pain – be it loneliness or grief – can be a great wake-up call and get us to take new action. To create what we do want in our lives. I need to be a bit braver, and also figure out what I do want. (I’m not sure I do want a romantic partner – but more of a closer community to hang out with) Also my lovely dog Oscar ticks a lot of the boxes on the questions I asked! (am I sad? That the love of my life is my dog??!)
So, I would ask – what do you want to create? What do you want? And how are you going to make it happen?